On uesday night last week (19th October) I was on Improv Radio with Pat Armitstead. In Pat's show, she uses the Virtues Cards.
The Virtues Club was founded 25 years ago in Canada. They researched all the religions in the world and took from each the common words used by each and brought them together as a tool to help parents rear their children with these values.
I was to draw the card for the show and I drew Reverence.
The word Reverence is quite a difficult word to explain. I think it is something that is inate in us but in European society we lose quite early on in life because we are taught to live so much in our heads.
Reverence to me is a state of being. It is a soul connection where a person allows thenself to just be themselves. A state where a person is not striving for or too something just being at one with nature and themselves.
I would be interested to hear what others say about reverence. You can either add to this blog or email me at leigh@clinicalupdate.co.nz
If you want to listent to the show http://www.planetaudio.org.nz/player/player1.php?id=73382 it is well worth a read.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Monday, October 11, 2010
Are we too PC for our own good?
As I mentioned yesterday, have we lost the ability to laugh at ourselves?
While I don't support riducule or put downs of anyone, because I dont like to be the recipient of them comments and jokes about other cultures have gone on for years.
The Irish have been the but of jokes being purported as stupid (which they are not) the Scots as being miserly (and they are not) to name a few. Yet I don't see these people getting up in arms about it. They just laugh at it along with everyone else.
This whole issue with Paul Henry has got totally out of hand and I personally think laughing at someones name or questioning where a person was born will continue to be asked. Sacking Police because a joke was sent on email with a comment to is a bit over the top. How many of us have been guilty of making a flippent remark?
The issue here really is the forum these comments, remarks or jokes are made in. Everyone is so careful to save face.
Perhaps Paul Henry just says what others are thinking but too afraid to speak out? I don't know but it has all got totally out of hand in my book.
While I don't support riducule or put downs of anyone, because I dont like to be the recipient of them comments and jokes about other cultures have gone on for years.
The Irish have been the but of jokes being purported as stupid (which they are not) the Scots as being miserly (and they are not) to name a few. Yet I don't see these people getting up in arms about it. They just laugh at it along with everyone else.
This whole issue with Paul Henry has got totally out of hand and I personally think laughing at someones name or questioning where a person was born will continue to be asked. Sacking Police because a joke was sent on email with a comment to is a bit over the top. How many of us have been guilty of making a flippent remark?
The issue here really is the forum these comments, remarks or jokes are made in. Everyone is so careful to save face.
Perhaps Paul Henry just says what others are thinking but too afraid to speak out? I don't know but it has all got totally out of hand in my book.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
My 4 leged mate is on the mend
I am pleased to say the my mate's eye is healing well. He is back to his old self.
Now I don't know if this is a male thing, but he hasn't learned. He still harrasses the cat!! What is the matter with him?
Is it name thing? His name is Henry. Do Henry's not learn?
As far as the other Henry is concerned (Paul) the sad thing is we have lost an excellent interviewer. Sure he get a bit too sure of himself from time to time but hey haven't we all said and done things we regret.
Are we becoming a bit to PC. Why can we not laugh at ourselves? Has the world lost its capacity to turning the other cheek?
I was told as a youngster "Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me". I think it is things like this that make us stronger.
Now I don't know if this is a male thing, but he hasn't learned. He still harrasses the cat!! What is the matter with him?
Is it name thing? His name is Henry. Do Henry's not learn?
As far as the other Henry is concerned (Paul) the sad thing is we have lost an excellent interviewer. Sure he get a bit too sure of himself from time to time but hey haven't we all said and done things we regret.
Are we becoming a bit to PC. Why can we not laugh at ourselves? Has the world lost its capacity to turning the other cheek?
I was told as a youngster "Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me". I think it is things like this that make us stronger.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
The joy of animals
A few weeks back I posted an article about animals and how important they are. Many women claim animals are better listeners than men. Well there are many comparisons we could make if we want to.
My 4 legged mate Henry (my dog) I reckon causes me as much grief as any 2 legged male could. Her has allergies that cause his ears to flare up which requires treatment. When ever I go to treat his ears, he runs away (is there an analogy here for me).
Now he has scaped his cornea and has to go to an eye specialist. It seems like it is never ending.
However, all that a side, I wouldnt be without my mate. He keeps me company in my home and in the car. I talk to him and he NEVER answers me back, he just listens. His pleasures are simple like an early morning walk. He sits under my desk while I am working and he cuddles up to me at night and keeps me warm. AND the cat hates him.
I guess it is telling me that life isnt always perfect and how we want it to be. All the challengers and upheavels help us to be compassionate, careing and above all tolerant. We are truely blessed aren't we.
My 4 legged mate Henry (my dog) I reckon causes me as much grief as any 2 legged male could. Her has allergies that cause his ears to flare up which requires treatment. When ever I go to treat his ears, he runs away (is there an analogy here for me).
Now he has scaped his cornea and has to go to an eye specialist. It seems like it is never ending.
However, all that a side, I wouldnt be without my mate. He keeps me company in my home and in the car. I talk to him and he NEVER answers me back, he just listens. His pleasures are simple like an early morning walk. He sits under my desk while I am working and he cuddles up to me at night and keeps me warm. AND the cat hates him.
I guess it is telling me that life isnt always perfect and how we want it to be. All the challengers and upheavels help us to be compassionate, careing and above all tolerant. We are truely blessed aren't we.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Personal Grievances are avoidable
On my walk this morning I was thinking about personal grievances or PG's for short. PG's come about through not knowing the law and though quick unthoughtout actions.
The emotional cost to a business owner or manager is huge and adds to an already stressed person. On top of this is the lost time and the $$$$$.
A single personal grievance is likely to cost you a minimum of $2500!(if you are lucky) On top of this there is the time to prove your case - written and verbal recall. Then there is the lack of sleep which increases stress levels.
The thing is PG's are avoidable. They don't need to happen if you know how to deal with employees.
Just look at what is happening in the ACT party now. We have a tit for tat war. You hurt my feelings now I am going to hurt yours. This is Parent/Child behaviour.
Adult/Adult behaviour is the only way. It is about knowing what to do and not allowing emotions to get in the way.
Want to know more? Then come and find out about Employment Law and how you can protect yourself. Go to clinicalupdate.co.nz for more information.
The emotional cost to a business owner or manager is huge and adds to an already stressed person. On top of this is the lost time and the $$$$$.
A single personal grievance is likely to cost you a minimum of $2500!(if you are lucky) On top of this there is the time to prove your case - written and verbal recall. Then there is the lack of sleep which increases stress levels.
The thing is PG's are avoidable. They don't need to happen if you know how to deal with employees.
Just look at what is happening in the ACT party now. We have a tit for tat war. You hurt my feelings now I am going to hurt yours. This is Parent/Child behaviour.
Adult/Adult behaviour is the only way. It is about knowing what to do and not allowing emotions to get in the way.
Want to know more? Then come and find out about Employment Law and how you can protect yourself. Go to clinicalupdate.co.nz for more information.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
About the Treaty of Waitangi
I know a lot of people are confused about the Treaty and think it is for just Maori. In fact the Treaty is for all New Zealanders. This takes all the fear away from it.
The principles of Participation, Protection and Partnership are really good principles in which to give good care. There is no mystery about this at all.
So if you are one of those who were skeptical, then just think when you are providing any service for any person in New Zealand are you including them in the discussion and seeking their input (participation), is it what the person wants (partnership) and how does this mimimze risk or harm to a person (Protection) then you will have no trouble understanding the Treaty of Waitangi.
The principles of Participation, Protection and Partnership are really good principles in which to give good care. There is no mystery about this at all.
So if you are one of those who were skeptical, then just think when you are providing any service for any person in New Zealand are you including them in the discussion and seeking their input (participation), is it what the person wants (partnership) and how does this mimimze risk or harm to a person (Protection) then you will have no trouble understanding the Treaty of Waitangi.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
All it takes is a phone call
Currently I have someone who keeps sending me faxes that I cannot answer. I don't know the motive behind this but have a suspicion that someone is trying to tell me something.
I send out faxes to people on my data base to remind them of upcoming courses. Some people have a phone fax so a fax is not automatically received. Others appear to turn their fax off at night.
Recently I received a letter from my phone company stating they had received a complaint because a fax from my phone had woken up a person 4 times during the night. I have not been told who this person is, and there is no way for me to find out who it is as the Privacy Act prevents this information being devulged.
Now the issue for me here is, all it takes is a phone call to tell me to remove them from the list. With out this information I can do nothing.
Another point is it is a business fax. There is currently no law in New Zealand that requires me to get permission from a business to receive a fax unlike emails.
I am now getting someone who has set a fax to come back to me that i cannot answer. A nuisence fax - and yes it is a nuisence.
The thing is, if it is an impostion to receive a fax all that has happen is ring or email me to take them off the fax list. It is not hard. I will not be offended or upset. I will not take any reprisals either. All I will do is take them off the fax list.
This sort of retaliatory behaviour is so unnecessay. I am not in the business of upsetting people. If I have done this, then I apologise.
I send out faxes to people on my data base to remind them of upcoming courses. Some people have a phone fax so a fax is not automatically received. Others appear to turn their fax off at night.
Recently I received a letter from my phone company stating they had received a complaint because a fax from my phone had woken up a person 4 times during the night. I have not been told who this person is, and there is no way for me to find out who it is as the Privacy Act prevents this information being devulged.
Now the issue for me here is, all it takes is a phone call to tell me to remove them from the list. With out this information I can do nothing.
Another point is it is a business fax. There is currently no law in New Zealand that requires me to get permission from a business to receive a fax unlike emails.
I am now getting someone who has set a fax to come back to me that i cannot answer. A nuisence fax - and yes it is a nuisence.
The thing is, if it is an impostion to receive a fax all that has happen is ring or email me to take them off the fax list. It is not hard. I will not be offended or upset. I will not take any reprisals either. All I will do is take them off the fax list.
This sort of retaliatory behaviour is so unnecessay. I am not in the business of upsetting people. If I have done this, then I apologise.
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