Do you have a bully in your midst?

I haven't got round to writing any articles this year as I have been very busy with the on line training. However I believe this subject to be so important that I will do a series of short discussions on this blog.

Why do I believe it is important?

People in care are very vulnerable. It is up to us to protect them. To make sure that they are free from any harm.

The Serial bully is the one you need to look out for. They are so cunning and conniving and make others feel they are wrong; including managers.

I am sure that you either have or have had someone in your midst who you just don't trust. The person that has all the answers, says the right things at the right time. The one you just can't catch or couldn't catch out?

Don't despair I have been duped by these people.

Over the next while I will put up some of the signs to look for. Not too much at a time so you have time to digest and reflect. So here goes.

Do you have anyone on your staff who you know is lying to you? They are so convincing? They have all the answers and are quick to come up with them if asked? They may even get to you first? Watch this person very closely.

Is there someone who is just so charming when you speak to them? The argument is always very plausible but there is some alarms going up in your head? They are very willing and very empathetic - especially when they know you are in ear shot. In fact they are likely to go over the top if they know you are around.

Be very wary of these people. They could be a serial bully.

Remember the elderly or disabled in your care are unlikely to speak up. The mere fact they have had to give up their independence is enough to force them into submission.

Next time I will look at the signs before you employ a serial bully. There are some.